Each decoder is different that way. You must know the decoder's make and model, and then find the manual under "support" or "references" at their website. Generally, there is a master volume CV, and then individual sound CV's.
CV2 is your V-Start. Set your throttle to speed step 1, enter "programming on the main", or ops mode, and dial in CV2. Start with a value of 1 and see what it does. I find that even zero makes some decoders move their locos. If so, you must find other torque and dither cv's...in the manual.
Cv's 3 and 4 are the only other ones I play with, unless it is a Tsunami that requires fiddling with 209 and 210. CV3 is inertia, or how slowly the locomotive gets up to speed with a load. I use a value at least at 50. Same with CV4, momentum, or the tendency to keep rolling from a given speed, until it slows to a stop. I often go 20 or more higher than my setting for inertia in CV3. If your train is going to collide, use the emergency button, or with a QSI, F7 is a fast brake.