Bruette
Well-Known Member
I'm at my wits end. Some may remember my old friend Willy had a catastrophic health problem in February 2022. He is now wasting away in a nursing home. He is doing well physically. He no longer has type II diabetes or any other chronic problem. He has lost an enormous amount of weight. What worries me is he is doing nothing!
I can't find out if he is refusing physical therapy or not getting any. Nobody will speak to me, and he tells me they aren't doing anything. His wife is all but useless, she knows nothing. I gave them each cell phones and I am footing the bill. But they don't speak to each other for weeks at a time. I know his wife is overwhelmed and they are both depressed. His wife was the stereotypical "dumb blond" She was a real beauty, now she is just dumb. She has a heart of gold, but that won't get the job done.
I know he needs to have a second cut on his leg where they amputated his foot. I'm told the first was called an emergency "guillotine cut" and is not suitable for a prosthetic foot. They had no choice as his body had become septic, he is lucky to be alive. He has to go back to the original hospital for the second cut he tells me. I wonder if he is doing nothing until they get him out of the nursing home.
I gave him a tablet, and this is the second smart phone. He broke both of those. I wonder how long the second phone will last. I guess it is good he turned down the laptop i wanted to give him. I want to get him another tablet or a laptop, but he said, "this is fine". He did manage to set up a twitter account, which is something. I've been trying to encourage him to start a pod cast, a blog or better yet both! I told him I will cover the expense. I'm not worried about how much I have spent and will keep spending. Please Willy, do something, anything!
As far as I know he has not even filed for social security disability.
He is still over one hundred miles away from us. I go to see him as much as I can. The problem is we are overbooked and have truly little time. We do keep him stocked with diet mountain dew and anything he asks for. It takes a minimum of three hours for us to see him. He goes through a case of soda every 10 days or less. If he were close, I would go see him every day.
His wife is less than 15 minutes from him and has only seen him once. That was to pick up his severance check from his former employer. She could not even manage to cash that. We had to pick it up and cash it for her. I told my friend I would hold the money for him until he gets out, he says "no that's ok, send it to her".
How do you help people that won't help themselves? I'm trying to stay positive and encourage him.
My wife is taking a well-deserved nap. I'm waiting for the sun to get higher so I can replace the front brakes on our Sonic. My beagles are with me on the couch.
I'm sorry to whine to all of you, this is the only place I blow off steam. Now you know why you have not seen much of me.
I can't find out if he is refusing physical therapy or not getting any. Nobody will speak to me, and he tells me they aren't doing anything. His wife is all but useless, she knows nothing. I gave them each cell phones and I am footing the bill. But they don't speak to each other for weeks at a time. I know his wife is overwhelmed and they are both depressed. His wife was the stereotypical "dumb blond" She was a real beauty, now she is just dumb. She has a heart of gold, but that won't get the job done.
I know he needs to have a second cut on his leg where they amputated his foot. I'm told the first was called an emergency "guillotine cut" and is not suitable for a prosthetic foot. They had no choice as his body had become septic, he is lucky to be alive. He has to go back to the original hospital for the second cut he tells me. I wonder if he is doing nothing until they get him out of the nursing home.
I gave him a tablet, and this is the second smart phone. He broke both of those. I wonder how long the second phone will last. I guess it is good he turned down the laptop i wanted to give him. I want to get him another tablet or a laptop, but he said, "this is fine". He did manage to set up a twitter account, which is something. I've been trying to encourage him to start a pod cast, a blog or better yet both! I told him I will cover the expense. I'm not worried about how much I have spent and will keep spending. Please Willy, do something, anything!
As far as I know he has not even filed for social security disability.
He is still over one hundred miles away from us. I go to see him as much as I can. The problem is we are overbooked and have truly little time. We do keep him stocked with diet mountain dew and anything he asks for. It takes a minimum of three hours for us to see him. He goes through a case of soda every 10 days or less. If he were close, I would go see him every day.
His wife is less than 15 minutes from him and has only seen him once. That was to pick up his severance check from his former employer. She could not even manage to cash that. We had to pick it up and cash it for her. I told my friend I would hold the money for him until he gets out, he says "no that's ok, send it to her".
How do you help people that won't help themselves? I'm trying to stay positive and encourage him.
My wife is taking a well-deserved nap. I'm waiting for the sun to get higher so I can replace the front brakes on our Sonic. My beagles are with me on the couch.
I'm sorry to whine to all of you, this is the only place I blow off steam. Now you know why you have not seen much of me.
Figures and details will be added as appropriate when I finally "plant" it.
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