Sorry OleSmokie ....... I understand completely!
The longer you are in this hobby, as well as the more diverse you get, and subsequently greater variety of model RR personas, the more you learn there are many that have die hard opinions about nearly everything. You did get some very GOOD tips, such as yard tracks, grades turnout placements etc.
I am an old fart with a far more laid back, perspective. I even PLAYED with REAL TRAINS, aka 1:1 scale as a switchman on the NYC based at the local yard here. I worked in the yard and on way-freight, so I have a little REAL railroad experience. Back then, mid 60s your first 3 days were spent just learning the ropes & mainly how to safely (oxymoronic term) get on & off moving trains. One nice thing about scale model RR play is you are far less likely to loose a limb or you life with one wrong move.
Real trains are REAL WORK, and not nearly as glamorous as we like to think. It's dirty and sometimes HARD WORK, not to mention dangerous. The PAY was very good, especially since I worked the board, on-call, no regular schedule, and often worked double shifts. One time I got called in 2 hrs after a way-freight crew shift had started, I had another 2 hrs to show up on the job, and got paid for the whole shift! Did I mention its NOT nearly as glamorous as we like to think? That night when serving a Goodyear plant with hoppers of lamp-black, (& picking up empties), you know gotta make the tires BLACK) I had to ride a car to a switch, get off and change it. It was DARK and I do mean DARK! (the ONLY light I had was my RR lantern) I got off the moving consist safely, but I landed one foot on one tie and the other foot on the other tie, and landed with my butt sitting on the switch indicator, that was CLOSE!
Real railroaders language would even make a sailor blush! I was in Navy aerospace avionics, so that might be a less than a completely fair call. Model railroaders language can also get unfit for children's ears. The club I belonged to had members in many scales, but HO, being the most popular ruled or had the most control over the club, and attitudes, & even arguments between scales etc were too common.
One night a long time club member got carried away with his mouth on a open house night with FAMILIES (including children) holiday season touring. I complained about his potty mouth being unsuitable in front of families with kids there as well as my kids and I was the one asked to LEAVE. The next meeting I packed up my stuff and left. I was NOT going to subject my kids to this ole timers dirty language, that on top of club politics was ENOUGH. There were some great people n the club, I am still friends with a few, but a couple rotten apples ruined it for everyone else, at least that is MY opinion.